If we are to give, give kindness rather than building walls of hatred that prevent others from coming close, simply because we dislike them. Everyone becomes likeable when our perspective shifts to finding the good in them. Therefore, we must focus on refining our outlook and harbouring the Divine in our hearts, without overly concerning ourselves with others' lifestyles or behaviours. When each individual focuses on self-improvement, collective betterment follows naturally.

Some school children were called for training at five in the morning. It was decided that they would all go to watch a movie at night, have dinner, and have fun. They slept late at night, so except for one child, no one turned up for the morning training in time. When the coach asked why others didn't turn up, the child who had come replied that they are not worthy only of your training; they do not value your time. Do not train them. The coach retorted, explaining to the child, "You're talking ill about everyone and are criticizing others so much, it would have been better if you also wouldn't have shown up in time. You would have saved yourself from this arrogance." The underlying sentiment is to maintain self-respect without arrogance.